Question (2361):
Is it permissible for a woman to devise a plan to subjugate her husband by using a verse of the Qur’ān, a duʿā’, or through any other method?
Answer:
No.[1] However, it is permissible for repelling oppression.[2] 6 Rajab 1329 A.H.
[Imdādul Fatāwā by Hazrat Thanvi 8/541, Old edition: 4/89]
[1]If the objective of using Qur’ānic verses, the Names of Allāh and things similar to them is only to cause a Muslim harm such as separating a husband and wife…or to overpower a Muslim in such a manner that he loses his ability to have the choice to love or hate someone…then this is ḥarām (forbidden) because it is oppression. (Aḥkāmul Qur’ān by Thanwi under the Tafsīr of verse 102 of Sūrah Al-Baqarah. The ruling regarding Ruqyah and Tamā’im, Idāratul Qur’ān Karachi 1/51.)
It is mentioned in “Jāmeʿ Ṣaghīr” that it is ḥarām (forbidden) and not permissible for a woman to make a tʿawīdh for the purpose of making her husband love her. (Shāmī– The Book regarding prohibitions and permissions. The chapter regarding looking and touching. Maktabah Zakariyyā, Deoband 9/523. Karachi 6/364.)
I say: It is mentioned in “Jāmeʿ Ṣaghīr” regarding a woman who intends to make a tʿawīdh for her husband to love her after he hated her: This is ḥarām (forbidden) and not permissible, as is mentioned in “Al-Ḥāwī lil Fatāwā”.
(Hindiyyah, The Book on Karāhiyyah (Disliked Things). Chapter Eighteen in “Al-Tadāwī wal Mu‘ālijāt”. Old Edition, Zakariyyā Deoband 5/356. New Edition Zakariyyā 5/411.)
In “Jāmeʿ Ṣaghīr”, the following is mentioned: it is ḥarām (forbidden) and not permissible for a woman to make a tʿawīdh for the purpose of making her husband love her. (Al Mawsūʿatul Fiqhiyyah Al-Kūwaitiyyah 13/30)
Khāniyyah on the margin of Al-Hindiyyah, The Book on Prohibitions and Permissions. The sub-chapter on Tasbīḥ and Taslīm… Old Edition Zakariyyā Deoband 3/425. New Edition Zakariyyā Deoband 3/308.
[2] Necessity permits prohibitions. For instance, it is permissible to eat carrion when one is in the state of extreme dying hunger and to utter statements of kufr (disbelief) when forced. (Qawāʿid ul Fiqh, Maktabah Ashrafiyyah Deoband Page:89). Al Ashbāh wan Nadhā’ir, The Fifth Maxim: Difficulty is removed. Old Edition Page 140. New Edition Zakariyyā Deoband 1/251)
