{"id":3791,"date":"2015-04-28T16:48:57","date_gmt":"2015-04-28T20:48:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fiqhulislam.com\/?p=3791"},"modified":"2015-04-28T16:48:57","modified_gmt":"2015-04-28T20:48:57","slug":"fiancee","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fiqhulislam.com\/?p=3791","title":{"rendered":"Corresponding with One's Fiancee"},"content":{"rendered":"

Question:<\/span><\/p>\n

A boy has been engaged with a girl. After the engagement the boy went overseas to study. They plan on marrying after graduation. Is it permissible to write letters to this girl before marriage, while studying ? The letters are mostly filled with advises. If letters are not written, there is a possibility of the\u00a0engagement breaking. Will it be lawful to write letters for the sake of upholding\u00a0this engagement?<\/p>\n

Answer:<\/span><\/p>\n

Even after engagement, the girl is an ajnabiyah (strange non mahram) for the boy once the marriage has not taken place. The rulings of a strange woman will apply to her as well. Even if the letters are filled with advises, they will not be free of fitna and pleasure. The fuqaha have written that it is makrooh (reprehensible) for a man to drink the left over drink of a (non mahram) woman and vise versa due to pleasure.<\/p>\n

\u064a\u0643\u0631\u0647 \u0644\u0644\u0645\u0631\u0627\u0629 \u0633\u0624\u0631 \u0627\u0644\u0631\u062c\u0644 \u0648\u0633\u0624\u0631\u0647\u0627 \u0644\u0647 <\u062f\u0631 \u0639\u0644\u0649 \u0647\u0627\u0645\u0634 \u0627\u0644\u0631\u062f 5:302<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0( \u00a01:163\u0623\u0648 \u0627\u0645\u0631\u0623\u0629 ) \u0646\u0639\u0645 \u064a\u0643\u0631\u0647 \u0633\u0624\u0631\u0647\u0627 \u0644\u0644\u0631\u062c\u0644 \u0643\u0639\u0643\u0633\u0647 \u0644\u0644\u0627\u0633\u062a\u0644\u0630\u0627\u0630 \u0648\u0627\u0633\u062a\u0639\u0645\u0627\u0644 \u0631\u064a\u0642 \u0627\u0644\u063a\u064a\u0631 \u0648\u0647\u0648 \u0644\u0627 \u064a\u062c\u0648\u0632 \u00a0\u0645\u062c\u062a\u0628\u0649<\u062f\u0631 \u0639\u0644\u0649 \u0647\u0627\u0645\u0634 \u0627\u0644\u0631\u062f<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u0642\u0648\u0644\u0647 ( \u0646\u0639\u0645 \u064a\u0643\u0631\u0647 \u0633\u0624\u0631\u0647\u0627 \u0627\u0644\u062e ) \u0623\u064a \u0641\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0634\u0631\u0628 \u0644\u0627 \u0641\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0637\u0647\u0627\u0631\u0629 \u0628\u062d\u0631 \u0642\u0627\u0644 \u0627\u0644\u0631\u0645\u0644\u064a \u0648\u064a\u062c\u0628 \u062a\u0642\u064a\u062f\u0647 \u0628\u063a\u064a\u0631 \u0627\u0644\u0632\u0648\u062c\u0629 \u0648\u0627\u0644\u0645\u062d\u0627\u0631\u0645 \u0627 \u0647\u0640 \u00a0<\u0634\u0627\u0645\u064a 1:163<\/p>\n

The permission that Shariah has given to see the prospective spouse is against analogy (\u062e\u0644\u0627\u0641 \u0627\u0644\u0642\u064a\u0627\u0633) due to the need. It will therefore be\u00a0restricted withing its boundaries (\u0627\u0644\u0636\u0631\u0648\u0631\u0629 \u062a\u062a\u0642\u062f\u0631 \u0628\u0642\u062f\u0631\u0647\u0627) . This is why if a person has seen her once then it is haram to look a second time.<\/p>\n

\u0648\u062a\u0642\u064a\u064a\u062f \u0627\u0644\u0627\u0633\u062a\u062b\u0646\u0627\u0621 \u0628\u0645\u0627 \u0643\u0627\u0646 \u0644\u062d\u0627\u062c\u0629 \u0623\u0646\u0647 \u0644\u0648 \u0627\u0643\u062a\u0641\u0649 \u0628\u0627\u0644\u0646\u0638\u0631 \u0625\u0644\u064a\u0647\u0627 \u0628\u0645\u0631\u0629 \u062d\u0631\u0645 \u0627\u0644\u0632\u0627\u0626\u062f \u0644\u0623\u0646\u0647 \u0623\u0628\u064a\u062d \u0644\u0644\u0636\u0631\u0648\u0631\u0629 \u0641\u064a\u062a\u0642\u064a\u062f \u0628\u0647\u0627 <\u0634\u0627\u0645\u064a 5:262<\/p>\n

An act that is prohibited in Shariah cannot be allowed based on the fear\u00a0mentioned in the question. The simplest\u00a0solution is to perform the nikah even if the consummation is not made. The matter will then be in the boy’s hand and correspondence\u00a0will also be lawful, rather it would be encouraged.<\/p>\n

And Allah knows best.<\/p>\n

(Hazrat Aqdas Mufti) Ahmed Khanpuri (May Allah preserve him)<\/p>\n

The answer is correct.<\/p>\n

(Hazrat Mufti) Abbas Dawud Bismillah\u00a0(May Allah preserve him)<\/p>\n

Mahmoodul Fatawa<\/span> Vol.4 Pg.754-755<\/p>\n

Translator’s note:<\/p>\n

The same rule will apply to speaking directly, or over\u00a0the phone or messaging, whether through a text message or BBM or WhatsApp, or connecting to her on the internet through any social media like Facebook or Twitter or Instagram etc.<\/p>\n

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